Which dating app should you use? This guide can help you figure it out.


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Match(opens in a new tab)

Best For People Who Are Past Their Tinder Days

Everyone knows someone who’s on Match — because it offers a fun-yet-serious alternative to sites that are too marriage-focused.

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eharmony(opens in a new tab)

Best For Finding A Spouse

Marriage-minded folks flock to eharmony for its success rate and its comprehensive compatibility score.

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Hinge(opens in a new tab)

Best For Casual Intentional Daters

On Hinge, you have to actually engage with people’s profiles instead of just absentmindedly swiping yes or no.

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Best For Liberals And Leftists

Informed people dig OKC’s focus on the connection between political views and meshing romantically.

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Here’s a hot take that’s actually ice cold: dating apps are not a lesser way to meet people.

We do get that on some level, there is a certain appeal to the coffee shop meet-cute or fun situation-ship that gradually and naturally turns into something more. But frankly, we are tired of everyone ignoring the fact that dating apps give you the chance to meet a whole group of people you might not have otherwise. And once you find someone you click with, how your relationship develops in-person is pretty much indistinguishable from non-app origin stories.

Sentiments aside, we have some hard data to back our reasoning for Why Online Dating Is Worthwhile™: Statista predicted that the online dating audience will grow to 53.3 million by 2025, compared to 44.2 million users in 2020. A study from Stanford released in 2019 asserted that online dating is officially the most common way for U.S. couples to meet, rounding out at nearly 40 percent of couples having first met online.

This pre-pandemic prediction came before the COVID-era dating app sign-ups surge. Though people are eager to get back to doing as many things IRL as possible now, dating apps are still a great place to find someone, whether you want a relationship or are just looking to get nasty.

And yes, though there are algorithms that dictate what profiles pop up on your screen, we firmly believe that some stars aligning still comes into play. After all, the person who signs up on the app and is looking for love at exactly the same time you are is up to fate and the universe, proving that online dating romance is very much alive and well.

Because it’s not 2007 anymore, the need for mobile-friendly online dating isn’t just a millennial thing — people over 40 don’t have time to sit around at their home desktop, either. Dating sites that are older than most members of Gen Z (like Match and eharmony) have been forced to give serious attention to their smartphone counterparts if they don’t want to be outgrown.

However, that statistical promise still requires patience and a game plan, the game plan being choosing the dating app with features that best fit your lifestyle — and the lifestyle of the type of person you’re looking for. Are you looking for an app strictly for sex or an app more serious than Tinder but less serious than eharmony(opens in a new tab)? Or maybe, you’d just really love to find an app where queer women aren’t relentlessly sexualized by creeps and pestered by unicorn hunters.

Feeling weird about dating post-Covid restrictions? Yeah, everyone is.

Despite restaurant capacities returning to normal, the idea of swiping just for the hell of it isn’t feeling so normal. COVID (and monkeypox) are still real issues, and there’s definitely a collective Fear of Dating Again.

Despite the risks on places like college campuses, there are still lots of people that desire a connection beyond frat parties. Whether you’re looking for love on campus or just looking for the next hookup, make sure to approach it safely. Seeing humans in real life isn’t something to take for granted.

But this invisible hump may play to the advantage of people looking for a connection past a booty call. After watching budding relationships stay stagnant in the “It’s a match!” phase, time feels more valuable. The pent-up energy it takes to go on a date feels like it’d be better spent on someone you actually see potential with. Even the horniest of them all may be more closely considering the authenticity and personality of prospects — because as we all learned, seeing humans in real life isn’t something to take for granted.

FWIW, communication skills may have gotten better, or at least more important to people, during the pandemic. Hashing out COVID-related issues with strangers required getting comfortable with personal boundaries and learning how to discuss anxieties with someone new. Tinder thinks the honesty will carry over as the new dating norm, which means you can feel comfortable knowing more people are comfortable saying exactly what they want, even if they quite don’t know what that is. You can even tell if someone is vaccinated based on their profile on most dating apps, so that saves you from any awkward anti-vax conversations.

Which dating apps are actually good?

When it comes to your dating app options, it’s true that the apps you’re likely to find the most success on are the ones with actual active users (this is a Zoosk subtweet).

Though we get that everyone has their problems with the established choices, new apps don’t always equal better apps. Every year, a slew of trendy apps try to set themselves apart from Tinder and Bumble: In 2017, apps like Hater (which matched people based on things they disliked, like slow walkers or Donald Trump), and The League (a snooty, members-only matchmaker with a ridiculous waitlist) were expected to be game-changers. Hater has since disappeared from the App Store while The League’s reviews(opens in a new tab) have gotten increasingly questionable.

It’s hard to pinpoint the exact reason why such promising ideas didn’t make the cut — but whether they were too exclusive, too niche, or begging for catfish, it’s clear that there’s a very special ingredient that makes apps like Hinge pop off. Honestly, most times your best options will lie in established apps that are making efforts to intentionally upgrade their features and content.

Choosing the apps that are good for you

One app’s secret ingredient might not be the one you necessarily want to include in your dating recipe. If you already live in a large metropolitan area, Tinder’s pull of its large user base is a little less strong, since likely, more niche apps will have a decent number of profiles near you.

Some people are dedicated to keeping their search for love free of cost, so sites like Match or eharmony, where most if not all features live behind a paywall, will likely not be your first pick. For others, behind that paywall is where they find the reassurance that users are likely not dropping cash to mess around or not go on actual dates.

Of course, knowing exactly what you want isn’t always easy to say, especially when pulling from the abstract. There’s nothing wrong with flying free from the Tinder nest and trying out a few apps or sites you wouldn’t usually. Overall, we say embrace the messy ride that is dating.

To get you started, this handy guide breaks down the most popular dating apps and why people like them, plus some (actually good) up-and-coming apps that offer a more tailored experience:

Who it’s for: People who trust experience over gimmicks and people who want a lot of options.

Why it’s awesome:

  • Huge user base
  • Good for serious and more casual relationships

As one of the first online dating sites launched in 1995, Match has decades of data to back up their algorithms — so no, it’s not just another one of those sites that you’ll forget about after a month. Match even uses your swipes to get a better idea of what you like to give you better matches in the future. 

These algorithms (thankfully) don’t involve a miserable questionnaire. This saves you time and lets you decide to take a more casual approach than say, eharmony. Aside from asking about personal values and interests, Match allows you to specify what you want (or don’t want) in a partner and how important that is: If you’d prefer someone who doesn’t smoke cigarettes but it’s not a deal-breaker, Match lets you specify that. And if it is a deal-breaker, they try to avoid suggesting users that had that in their answers. It’s a super simple way to make sure you two are at least somewhat on the same page with surface-level things, and can avoid those awkward conversations two months into the relationship. 

Privacy policy: Match shares some of your information with third parties for marketing, advertising, and analytics and with other Match Group businesses. You have the option to allow or deny permissions to certain personal information. Read Match’s full privacy policy here.

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